The swingers lifestyle certainly opens the door to quite a bit fun, but swinging can become complex between couples. Specifically, issues arise between couples that don’t make their rules clear before playtime. This brings forth the big question…is a soft swap or hard swap on the agenda? Some couples keep sex out of the picture while others are looking to indulge in it all, but which option is right for you?
Here are some tips for making that choice.
Is Watching Others Your Thing?
If you’re just dipping your toes in the water and are new to swinging, just watching others play might be a solid start that can help you decide your level of participation in the future. You can plan a play session with another couple where you merely are a voyeur or head to a club that features sex exhibitionists. Perhaps you and your partner want to be watched during sex. In these situations, if your interest is piqued, you might join others in a soft swap spontaneously, but it’s certainly not an obligation.
Opting for a Soft Swap
Most swingers are down for a soft swap, and these incidents can be planned but often happen spontaneously when you feel a connection with another couple or an individual. Soft swaps consist of kissing, foreplay and perhaps oral sex, but they don’t involve sexual penetration. This is the ideal arrangement for couples who want to enjoy the excitement of intimacy with others without participating in a full swap that might cross pre-set boundaries. Those who soft swap often due so as a form of foreplay that gets them revved up for one another, and some actually do the deed in front of their swapping companions. Because watching is sexy!
Delving Into the Hard Swap Scene
Also known as a full swap in the lifestyle, a hard swap involves penetrative sex. While this can be fulfilling and ultra hot to watch, seeing your lover engaged with another person can be an emotional and intense experience. More often than not, light swingers might begin this experience in a soft swap agreement that ramps up to the next level. Partners need to have rules in place for these situations, and couples experiencing problems in their personal life might actually make things worse by delving into full-fledged sex with others.
You Can Sway Instead of Full Time Swinging
Swinging doesn’t have to be a requirement at all times, as some couples we define as ‘vanilla’ can sometimes expand their horizons and become swayers. Many newbies in the lifestyle are just testing the waters and dabble on special occasions such as vacations. There’s no need to fully commit to being swingers, but a hall pass periodically can help keep relationships fresh and exciting.
Whatever route you choose, remember the rules and take extra time to keep your main squeeze feeling prioritized to avoid complications.
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